13 Helpful Relationship Advice
1. Don't allow experience to harden your heart; rather use it to become more aware and sensitive..
2. Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations.
3. Try not to think in terms of forever. Think of now, and forever will take care of itself. Recognize that all relationships cannot be forever. Recognize their temporary quality, but continue to act as if they are permanent.
4. Expect to invest a great deal of time and energy in your relationships. Lasting relationships don't just happen, they are created.
5. Never force anyone to do anything for you "in the name of love." Love is not to be bargained for.
6. Don't brood. Get on with living and loving. You don't have forever.
7. Don't lose touch with the craziness in you. This, with a large dose of caring, will assure that your relationship will never be boring.
8. Always start a relationship by asking: Do I have ulterior motives for wanting to relate to this person? Is my caring conditional? Am I trying to escape something? Am I planning to change the person? Do I need this person to help me make up for a deficiency in myself? If your answer to any of these questions is "Yes", leave the person alone. He or she is better off without you.
9. Keep the child in you alive and playing.
10. Don't be afraid of disagreements and arguments, the only people who don't argue are people who don't care or are dead. In fact, don't have short arguments. Make certain they are thoroughly over and done with.
After an argument is over, forget it.
11. Let go of pride. It is usually false, creates barriers and prevents closeness.
12. Even though you are only half of a relationship, you must remain a whole person, apart from the relationship.
13. Don't allow your relationships to die of NEGLECT and put God on the CENTER.
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