Friday, January 23, 2009
I had my check up earlier this morning and I am glad that I lost 6lbs in just two weeks. I feel happy that I am able to lose weight naturally without using any diet pills like Lipovox even if some of my friends thought that I am taking something to lose weight. Well, I don’t need another synthetic medicine in my system but I definitely love my body right now and I’m determined to be more fit in the coming weeks.

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Tuesday, January 20, 2009

We’re settling the score on unrequited love. It does not have to be so desperate.

The Nature of the Dilemma
It happens all the time. The quintessential drama that young, and perhaps not so young, women find themselves in. They encounter a man and they fall in love. For some it may happen instantly…for others, it may take weeks, even months to develop. But the final result is precisely that: she is in love, he isn’t—not with her, anyway.

Yes, it feels dire, desperate, and hopeless…particularly in this staunchly conservative culture where women are expected to wait till they are chosen, wooed, and courted. Sadly, a woman in love has no choice but to hide her heart and pine away, it seems. Or does she?

Or can she do something about it, and more importantly, have a hope of success?

Reason vs. Emotion
If you are, in fact, in love or simply in “crush” (it really doesn’t matter which), make sure that your reasons are, well…reasonable. It can’t be just because he’s a Ricky Martin look-alike or because he has great abs and pecs. The assumption is that you know your target well enough to believe that you and he will get along. You and he like the same things or his sense of humor is exactly like yours or he values his family in just the same way that you do. This is being rational, rather than emotional. Being rational will serve you well in your pursuit of his love.

Have good reasons for the state of your heart and you will achieve success.

A Matter of Male Cluelessness
It’s a matter of perspective. One way to look at it is this: It’s not so much that you are in love with someone who does not love you. It’s that someone does not as yet know that you are there for him to love.

Men can be sort of clueless about affairs of the heart and matters of compatibility. Like many species in the animal kingdom, they go for shiny objects, things that are brightly colored and move around a lot. They will incline themselves toward the objectively pretty, obviously attractive women. Many don’t even give a thought initially to personality—letting the physical attraction lead the way, often to dismal ends.

Look at it this way: All you’re doing is giving him a clue or two to solving the mystery of you.

All’s Fair in Love
The reason why many girls fail to get their guy to like them is they count on it too much. You might say like Renee Zellwegger said in the film, Jerry Maguire: “But I love him!” Truth is, you don’t. You are in severe “crush”—you do not know yet if you love him. You just think that you might be able to. An entirely different thing, trust me.

The mindset you should have? That all is fair in the game of love. In short: Don’t put all your emotional eggs in one man’s basket. The only way you stand a chance at winning him is if you will be able to stand it in case you lose him. This is not about your heart’s lifelong happiness. All this is is a sporting effort at making a guy see how wonderful you are.

Throw out the notion that this is the one and only man for you. Yes, this could be the one…or he could be just the one of many. On the offchance that he isn’t, there will be others. This has to be your frame of heart and mind before you embark on this quest.

There are no guarantees but there’s also no law against trying to win the affections of a seemingly indifferent man. What’s more, not a few women have succeeded and reaped rewards.

A Word of Warning
There are men out there who are especially suspicious of women who “like them first.” (They may even be reading this article). Some are even jerky enough to disdain the women and look down on them—a mark of insecurity, if ever there was one (“If I don’t need to make her like me, there must be something wrong with her.”). They want someone who is elusive. They yearn for the thrill of the chase. They don’t want a “sure thing.” Not all of them are like that: a few are painfully shy, nerdy, or torpe …but goodness knows, there are enough out there of the other kind. Which makes your safest course of action playing it cool. Yes, your heart may be skipping fiery beats…but as you go through the guidelines below, remember that all that’s going on in your heart and mind should never be apparent in any way, shape, or form to the outside world.

Bottomline: You like him. Give him the option of liking you back.

Here’s How: The Get-Him-to-Like-You Manual
1. Stay in his line of vision. Gina, 30, now married to her guy, told us what she did to “make him realize I was the one.” “I knew there were prettier girls than me—that wasn’t the issue. Kung saan siya, nandun ako—kunwari, pinakamaganda ako. At the same time, I also acted oblivious as though he wasn’t even there.” Gina’s point being, he can’t discover how wonderful you are unless he sees you. So be seen.

2. Let him see the nurturing you. We are the fairer sex because we are nurturing. It goes back to the fact that biologically, we can be mothers. Remember: all men first fell in love with their mothers. Very important: nurture like a mother, never act like one. Says Russell Wild, author of Why Men Marry (Contemporary, 1999), “Men consistently list nurturing as one of the prime qualities they look for in a partner.” Any man loves it when a woman pampers him, whether it’s by fixing him dinner or fixing his hair.”

Does this mean you should nurture him? Definitely not. Simply show that you are nurturing by being caring towards everyone—your friends, your family, him included.

Says Lulu who won the heart of her college crush: “When it was raining, I was genuinely concerned about whether he had an umbrella or not to go to class in another building. You know naman how guys are. So I lent him mine. If I had baon and I was eating in our org, I’d ask him and his group if they had eaten yet.” Naturally, it’s got to be sincere. Fake nurturing is nothing but fake and will not get you anywhere.

3. Show your assets. You have a talent. A clear strength. You’re a great dancer. Or you’re a good communicator. You might be an athlete. Find that and don’t make it a secret. Nothing turns a guy on more than a girl who’s good at what she does: whatever it is. Jam, 28, shares how she won the heart of her crush when their office had caroling. “It was a lot of fun because I love singing…and modesty aside, I’m rather good. After a while, I knew that he was listening to me. After a week, he told me I sang like an angel. Four weeks later, we were dating, and he was calling me his angel.”

4. Act and be beautiful—for the world at large. As world renown makeup artist and head of her own cosmetics company, Bobbi Brown says: Confidence is the great beautifier. So do all you can to be beautiful…then act as though you are. Says Trina, 30, “You may not be the most beautiful girl in the world, but who says you can’t act like it? When you consciously radiate beauty, it soon becomes unconscious. Think of it as casting a net for the world and if he chooses to fall for the bait, then great.”

Mara, 23, agrees with this. The best part, she says, is when guys other than your guy start venturing near you—then he sees it and thinks, wait a minute, who’s this? “Parang, wow, it’s so powerful to be a girl.”

5. Act completely unaware of his existence. A follow-up on #1, just because it’s so key. Like Gina, you must be oblivious. You don’t see him. You don’t know he’s watching. And as you go about your business, whether it’s work or play, give your best. Remember…oblivious, elusive, mysterious. Ninety-nine percent of the time, act like he does not even exist…then every now and then, flash him a “look-at-me” look…a mixture of surprise and pleasure that he is there after all.

6. Always have a lot of carefree fun—and look it. Men are scared off by women who are out for a serious committed relationship with the promise of a wedding ring after two years. Besides, girls, all you want is for him to fall for you: You don’t really know if you want the whole banana. Take it one step at a time. You are out to show him how much fun it is to be with you. Says Josey Vogels, author of Dating: A Survival Guide from the Frontlines (Adams Media, 1999), “The more fun and carefree you are, the more likely you are to be noticed by men with that same mindset.”

7. Be feminine but be a friend. Keep within the lines of being friendly like a pal but still being feminine like a woman.

Mona, 32, a freelance writer, fell for her client and at first, she was painfully conscious of it. Her prim-and-proper, Catholic school girl mode kicked in. “I was suplada, professional, and totally uninterested. I remember after our first meeting, he offered to carry my stuff to my car and I hurriedly said, no thanks—I can do it.” No surprise, the guy treated her like a freelance writer.

“When he called me to do a second project, I changed my tactics. I was friendlier…and I was feminine with just the lightest touch. After we wrapped up that project, he asked me out.”

8. There are other guys in the picture. Even if there are no other guys in the picture, you should be a busy woman with people to see and places to go. He doesn’t have to now that you’re nights out with Carlo are mainly food trips to his boyfriend’s restaurant. Remember, guys cannot help but want someone who is wanted, who has stuff going on. If all you are doing is hanging around him…well, that’s not going to get you anywhere.

9. Stake out common interests. Treat him like a real person and not the man of your dreams. In other words, use every conversation to get to know him better, the way you get to know any other friend. You find out you both like the same music: ask to borrow his latest CD. You find out he watches tennis the way you do: offer him your taped video of the last Wimbledon match. If he reads the way you do, bring in your copy of the latest Stephen King and wave it in his face. He’ll ask to borrow it, you’ll tell him: “Not till I’m done with it.” Afterwards, talk about it over a cup of coffee the way you would any other friend.

10. Don’t forget your passion and never neglect your life. Do not drop your life. This is a goal you have set for yourself much like deciding to eat healthier or deciding to revamp your career. Other aspects of your life should not fall to the wayside. You are you because of all these things. He will not want you if you drop your life for him.

The Bonus Tip: As Ally McBeal says, it’s really all about attitude. In everything you do, act like you are loveable and you will be. And should this guy fail to notice…toss your head and look elsewhere. Some other guy just might.

By: Sara Elias

From: FemaleNetwork

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Saturday, January 17, 2009

There is something in you,

that I just cannot seem to explain


it's the unfathomable depth

that reigns whenever I gaze

upon your mysterious smile...

Quite hard to comprehend

from the broken pieces of reality


it's this unconcluded enigma

that dominates my totally

whenever I dream of you...

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Friday, January 16, 2009

There’s nothing new about this, I love to shop and it has been a struggle on my part to control myself from shopping. I just know it’s an addiction that I must learn to manage especially nowadays that we should worry about the global financial crisis. I need to save and deprive myself from shopping at least for awhile. But who can resist shopping for these beautiful bags from Shopwiki, they are just adorable and will look fabulous on me. Argghhh, the temptation is so great that even browse to shop for more.

They just have a fantastic collection of just about anything you need, I think it’s a perfect place to shop for gifts and to treat yourself with something you like. I think I need some legwarmers especially with the chilly weather and some street market pashminas. They are just so lovely. I know I should really watch my spending but shopping really makes me feel happy and I guess, some shopping is just about okay.

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7:11 PM | 2 comments
What a cold weather we are experiencing right now! I’m not really sure if I liked it but I definitely like the cold weather rather than the summer heat which is really bad for my lupus but I think this year the cold weather is a bit extreme not only here in Manila but the rest of the world, it’s freezing out there! No wonder more people are getting sick with common colds and running rose, some are even dying because of the chilling temperature and I can only feel for my pets who are probably suffering from the cold, it’s better to give them pet supplements to ensure that their health can beat the chilly weather.

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9:24 AM | 2 comments
I have to admit that I really miss working in a real office. It may be a stressful environment but I do miss interacting with my co-workers and having overflowing free coffee. I also miss our office furniture where I used to hustle and bustle everyday. I’m not really sure if I’ll ever work in an office again but it is something that I would like to consider at the time comes that I’m already able to work again.

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Sunday, January 11, 2009

It’s almost dawn and I lay wide awake once more. I’ve been tossing and turning in my bed, trying desperately to fall asleep but my mind is off somewhere wandering and my thoughts are drifted to you. It doesn’t matter if I close or open my eyes, it’s your face that I see. I can still hear your laughter, and goodness I can even hear you breathing.

It’s been almost a year without you but why am I still missing you...

I thought I have let go of you... of the dream of us being together...

But still I hope, I dream, I wonder...

If by any chance somehow you’re thinking about me too.

Do you miss me the way I’m missing you?

But no, you’ve moved on and I stood still.

I don’t want to have any regrets, it was a choice I made but...

As I the dawn starts to welcome the sunrise, I can feel my heart breaking all over again...

My eyes wet with tears just like the dew in the morning as I think of you and how desperately I wanted to let you go... and another day is about to begin...

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Saturday, January 10, 2009

It's rather difficult to maintain a lot of blogs and I have to admit I've been neglecting this blog. Since my two domain sites are currently down...

Dancing With Butterflies - experienced an error while upgrading to Wordpress 2.7 and I'm still finding a way to fix it

Blessed Chic - I just transferred to another web host and this site will be up again very soon

I'm taking this chance to update my other blogs. I've been very lazy to blog the past few weeks and blame it on the holidays and the very long vacation but I really enjoyed my time away from the internet and the computer. I've been very sick too and I'm trying to contemplate my condition and I hate to burst it out in my blog, I just feel there's so much sadness and confusion in my thoughts that I need to deal on my own. Hopefully, I can find the joy to blog again and on that note I'm updating my links again and deleting my blogs from my blogroll that doesn't link back to me, it's a new year and I guess it's about time to forget some old acquaintance and meet some new ones...

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3:07 PM | 0 comments

One thing I don’t dislike with my illness right now is that I lost my appetite and even though there were a lot of parties and overflowing food during the holidays I managed to even lose some more pounds without any weight loss product. I like my whole new figure, I feel more beautiful and slimmer. I don’t really believe in New Year’s resolution but I vow to keep this body and strive to be slimmer without compromising my health and that's my goal this year, among other things of course.

How about you any New Year’s attitude change this 2009?

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2:32 PM | 1 comments
I’m a bit down the past few days because I am sick again and not able to do the things I love to do and this illness prevents me from working too which is really sad because I want to work and need to earn as much as I could because of my expensive medication but I got to stay here at home for awhile and rest. Summer will be here before you know it and I want to plan my family's Vegas vacations as early as now.

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2:27 PM | 0 comments
I’m still daydreaming over the holidays. It’s been a busy long vacation and maybe I enjoyed myself so much or probably worked hard that’s why I’ve been sick since the New Year. I have not blogged and hardly online because of my worst and longest lupus flare ever, it’s a bit annoying already but what can I do. I’m not really in the best mood these days but if you could probably give me a Ferrari or even just Ferrari parts maybe I’ll feel much better.

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